Romantic Relationship Issues
and Anxious Attachment
Maybe you’re not meant to have (healthy) love…
You keep dating the same person with a different face – even when you know it’s not a good fit. Deep inside, you know the relationship is not healthy for you, but you can’t get out no matter how hard you try.
Maybe it’s because you think you’re “too much” or “too needy” for something better– because this might be your only chance at love.
Each new relationship starts with promise – a glimmer of hope that this time will be different.
But soon, the familiar pattern emerges: your anxiety… and their avoidance.
When falling in love means losing yourself…
As you develop feelings for someone, friends, hobbies, and personal interests fall by the wayside. You start to neglect the things that once brought you joy and fulfillment, pouring all your energy and focus into the relationship.
You constantly feel anxious and insecure, expecting something bad to happen. Secretly, you fear your partner will realize they’re better off without you or meet someone else.
You reach out desperately for reassurance, and your partner pulls away, needing space – especially when you need them the most.
As they retreat, you become obsessed with their whereabouts or how quickly they respond to your texts and calls. If they don’t, deep anxiety and fear creep in like a shadow. The only thing that resolves it is hearing from them.
It’s a painful and relentless push-pull cycle.
What you’re going through has a name.
It’s called “anxious attachment.”
It’s an attachment style characterized by a deep-seated fear of abandonment and an intense need for closeness and reassurance in relationships. This attachment style typically develops from early childhood experiences where caregivers may have been inconsistently available or responsive to a child’s emotional needs.
Here is the good news: It is possible to heal from anxious attachment and become more secure and healthy in relationships. How do I know?
Because I’ve healed my own anxious attachment and have helped others do the same.
Here’s how I can help…
Maybe you’ve tried to break the cycle with therapy, coaching, programs, or books, but nothing’s worked… or you just can’t figure out what’s happening.
There isn’t a universal solution, but we can craft a healing journey specifically designed for you based on…
Understanding Attachment Theory…
Learn how attachment styles develop and influence your behavior in relationships. Understanding these patterns helps you make sense of your experiences and those of your partners. Knowing why you behave a specific way (and that it’s not because you’re broken) will bring deep relief and transformation to your life.
Regulating your emotions…
Learn to remain calm and centered in romantic relationships, increasing your sense of agency and security. You’ll learn somatic self-regulation techniques to increase safety and security in your body and self-care practices to take care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.
Healing trauma…
Address and heal the trauma that often underlies anxious attachment. With gentleness and compassion, I’ll help you understand how early experiences shaped your attachment style and emotional responses. This will allow you to release the trauma stored in your body and mind, fostering a stronger, more secure sense of self. That will open up the possibility of experiencing love, intimacy, and connection in their truest forms.
Developing communication and other skills…
Learn to communicate your truth, needs, desires, and boundaries. You’ll also acquire tools for healthy relating, including active listening, vulnerability, assertiveness, giving and receiving feedback, conflict management, and resolution. These tools not only help heal anxious attachment, but also lay the foundation for a secure and thriving relationship.
Building a healthy network of relationships…
You’ll create positive feedback loops reinforced by safe and consistent relationships that provide validation, encouragement, and healthy relationship role models.
You deserve love and connection.
Let’s make it happen!
You CAN cultivate the love, closeness, and intimacy that has been so challenging for you.
Healing will mean calmness, clarity, and confidence in yourself and your relationships.
Contact me today, and we’ll start your journey with a free consultation.